Love/Hate with Facebook

I’ve mentioned this before, but I’m going to bring it up again because I’m angry.

I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook.

I love the ability to write quick updates about what’s happening during my day and that I can keep up with friends in the same way by reading their updates.

I love keeping in touch with friends from school or areas I used to live in, getting to watch their families grow from afar.

I love that Facebook shows me what happened on this day in past years, bringing up lovely memories, and sometimes sad ones, to reflect on and find joy in.

I don’t like that Facebook won’t show me everything, even when I ask it to display my feed by the most recent posts made by friends.

I don’t like that I can’t reliably reach a Page audience who, presumably, want to see my content, without paying for the privilege.

I don’t like how some communities (that I find genuine value in 85% of the time) are run. I don’t like how I let those negative feelings impact me.

The impulsive part of me wants to delete my account there and never look back. I won’t do that, of course, but I really, really want to right now. Perhaps I need to add something to my #40while40 list, and take 40 days off of Facebook, or perhaps even all social media. I grew up without it, so I certainly could survive without it now. There are times when I need it at work, but not significantly, and not with the same irritations.

I really like that idea, the more I think about it. We’ll see how it goes.

For now, I’ve enjoyed my overnight oats with dried cranberries, and it’s time to go back to it. Have a lovely day, everyone!

2 Replies to “Love/Hate with Facebook”

  1. I took time off from Facebook a few years ago. Got total crap for it. “OH, I guess *you* wouldn’t know since you don’t pay attention anymore.”
    Like, okay… whatever.
    But other than feeling disconnected from damn near everyone, missing a whole bunch of minor life events and two major ones (marriage and baby), it was nice. Had an extra two hours in my day. Way less negativity for a time. But Renee had to call me with all the updates, since people didn’t know how else to reach me. So, maybe that was annoying? It’s a give and take.

    1. I’m sorry you got crap for taking time to take care of you (or whyever you took off). Everyone should have the space they need to care for themselves.

      I’ve thought about the give-and-take of giving up social media because it is quite so ingrained in my life, but I think having a limit on it will let me be refreshed without the Certain Doom of giving it up forever. We’ll see, of course. Maybe I’ll like it too much.

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